Are some (sweaty) Animals more equal that others

While not wanting to suggest the ultimate male fantasy that all women want to be ravished is correct, there is strong anecdotal and scientific evidence to suggest that they do prefer a dominant male partner in their sex life.

In a recent article a female journalist said that among her friends – professional couples both in well paid jobs who shared everything equally (paying the mortgage and household bills, housework and taking care of the kids) – the women were dissatisfied with their sex life. It lacked a frisson (sexual tension?) because their relationship was based on friendship and mutual respect and had become almost platonic. One woman said it was like sleeping with her brother. This feeds into the fantasy that women do not really want a caring, tender and supportive partner who is in touch with his female side – not when the lights are out. They really want someone more animal. One woman actually said she only fancied her husband when he came home straight from the gym all hot and sweaty. Are modern Western women in denial?

A recent scientific study in America supports this. A series of erotic images was shown to a group of men and a group of women hooked up to sensors measuring their physical and emotional responses. The men and the women responded almost exactly the same way to the images. But when questioned 75% of the men were honest about their arousal – but 75% of the women lied and said they were not aroused. In Saudi Arabia a dominant male society where women are repressed (at least in public) women exploit the males’ outstanding weakness – his desire to see females in the flesh, and have sex – to wield a surprising amount of power. Read the story I’VE NEVER KNOWN A WOMAN WHO WOULDN’T DANCE in my book THE GULF about a new wife performing an erotic dance of arousal.

In some ways I am ashamed of this story because it is not a work of fiction. It is an account of that dance by a Western cameraman who filmed it; and it was validated by a Western woman who had played flute at many Saudi weddings and seen this many times. The cameraman said it was the most erotic thing he had ever seen.

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The Myth of Multiculturalism

When you look at the events unfolding in Syria, and before that Iraq, and before that Lebanon, and even before that in Northern Ireland – or indeed any flashpoint in the world in the last hundred or so years – how can anybody with even a single brain cell support multiculturalism. And yet the developed world continues to parrot the so-called benefits of multi-cultural, multi-ethnic societies.
The legitimate uprising that began as a protest against the corrupt and despotic Ba’thist Assad regime has splintered into a conflict riven with many different religious, sectarian and tribal groups who spend as much time and energy fighting each other as fighting against Assad. There are Sunni and Shia, Salafists and Druze and Hezbollah militias, and Twelvers and Sufis and followers of Al Qu’eda and other professional jihadists.
If there an an outcome will it be the same as Iraq where a brutal, corrupt and repressive but efficient secular regime has been replaced by a brutal, corrupt and repressive religious and inefficient regime?
40 years ago Lebanon was a sophisticated and successful and very beautiful country (Beirut was the Paris of The East) dominated by a well educated Christian majority. But the high Muslim birthrate meant the pendulum swung to an Islamic majority – and of course they wanted a bigger slice of the pie. At first it was a classic Marxist struggle between the Haves and the Have-Nots. But it splintered all too quickly into a religious/ sectarian struggle between Catholic/Orthodox/Protestant Christians, Sunni and Shia Muslims and all their various Sects – and of course Palestinian refugees and Iran backed Hezbollah.
Northern Ireland was a lot simpler. A savage battle between Celtic tribes made worse by the religious differences between Irish Catholics and Scottish Protestants. If that fairly simple struggle took 400 years to resolve what hope is there for the much more complex Middle East – and I have not even mentioned the Israeli problem?
There is a joke in the Middle East that when God created Lebanon with its Mediterranean beaches, its snow capped mountains, lush valleys and cedar forests the Lebanese said “God, thank you for giving us this Paradise on Earth.” God replied, “You haven’t met your neighbours yet.”
The Arabian/Persian Gulf is (almost) as simple as Northern Ireland. Dominated by the conflict between Shia Iran and Sunni Saudi Arabia there is Shia unrest and uprising from time to time in Bahrain and the towns along the Saudi East coast against their Sunni rulers – but it has been contained. And potential problems in the UAE and Oman were resolved in the 50s by proxy wars between the USA and Britain. For the moment Yemen continues to be unstable, a haven for Al Qu’eda – but drones are taking care of that?
In my book THE GULF “Reaping the Whirlwind” I use the largely forgotten political turmoil and proxy wars, and The West’s greed for the fabulous oil wealth of Iran and Saudi Arabia, as an exotic background to my stories of expatriates working there. Flotsam and Jetsam of the developed world who have washed up in The Gulf to escape the wants of women and Nanny Britain to live a dangerous and highly paid life on the edge.
You can preview my book at:
http://www.amazon.com/author/mikerichards
and download it if you have a Kindle. Or if you prefer a real book you can order the paperback edition from:
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The ISBN number is 978-1908147097
They offer free delivery worldwide.
I hope you enjoy it.

From The Magic Kingdom to Middle Earth

Often during my 12 year long sojourn in Saudi Arabia we referred to that country as The Magic Kingdom to account for the unreal Disney like experience of living in a technologically advanced Westernized environment inside a feudal society. And just recently I visited New Zealand to see that, in the wake of Sir Peter Jackson’s successful adaptations of Tolkien, New Zealand is adopting the persona of Middle Earth.
The safety videos on NZ are peopled by Bilbo, Gandalf, Smurd the dragon etc. – when you arrive in Wellington airport the terminal says “Welcome to Middle Earth” – and like all unreality it has a element of reality. Going to New Zealand is like stepping back in time to a land that time forgot.
Stunningly physically beautiful, sparsely populated by well mannered people who take their litter home, there is very little traffic on the contoured two lane roads that swoop up and down and wind between pine woods and verdant green fields with just the occasional logging truck bearing down on you to keep you alert.
And yet underlying this sleepy idyll is a violent and turbulent caulron of volcanic activity that sends plumes of steam, and jets of evil smelling hot water, in the air, and occasional violent earthquakes that have destroyed towns like Napier and cities like Christchurch and killed and injured many people.
It as if God realized that He had created Heaven on Earth in New Zealand and so he counterbalanced that with its own private Hades just below the surface. And the reverse is true in the Middle East.
When God realized he had created a Hell on Earth in Arabia, with its searing heat and barren deserts that can scarcely support life, He gave them the riches of the world’s biggest oil deposits. And that in itself is a mixed blessing.
Imagine if there had been no oil. No nation building, no Gulf Wars, no regime changes under the cloak of bringing freedom and democracy, no money to fund the excesses of greedy politicians and pseudo royal families, and no money to fund Islamic fundamentalism and terrorism. Just tribal Bedouins subsisting on dates and camels milk with kept going by their simple belief in the will of Allah, and dependent on the clan and tribal loyalties for survival.
In my book THE GULF “Reaping the Whirlwind” I have tried to cover all the bases about the impact of big oil on what was a sleepy backwater of The British Empire from the perspective of ex-patriates. Men accustomed to working in highly paid and dangerous jobs in hostile environments, addicted to a life-on-the-edge to escape the feminized intensive care society that the West has become. Men who work hard and play hard.
You can preview my book at:
http://www.amazon.com/author/mikerichards
and download it if you have a Kindle. Or if you prefer a real book you can order the paperback edition from:
http://www.thebookdepository.co.uk
The ISBN number is 978-1908147097